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The Vortex by Esther and Jerry Hicks

This is the 3rd book in a second series about the buzzword topic  – the law of attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks.  Esther had been writing this type of information since 1986 and I learned about them in 2004. Everyone else learned about it when “the Secret” came out.

Just like I did with the earlier books, I played the CD version while following along in the book version. I don’t know if this is just a longing for someone to read to me, but I love doing it. I seem to get more out of the books and my mind stays focused on the material. The CD version was 8 CDs, each about an hour and a half long.

The book’s subtitle is “Where the Laws of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships”. The main idea of the book is that there are flawed premises most people believe in that hinder getting what they want out of life. A few examples are “If I leave an unwanted situation, I will find what I am looking for “, “To be in harmony with others, we have to believe and want the same things”, and “If I push hard again something long enough, it will go away.” They don’t read very in-depth out of context, but within the book, everything seems so profound.

I’ve read other reviews about this book that say it’s just the same thing they said in their previous books. To me, it was all brand new and brought so much clarity to what the other books where saying. Initially I was the least excited about this book coming out because I didn’t really have relationship issues, but of course, this book was the most meaningful to me. It is the ultimate book to tie all the ideas from Esther’s other books together. I really feel like I’m starting to “get” what it’s all about.

In essence the book states that when we encounter something that makes us feel negatively, we create its equal, happier counterpart in a personal ‘vortex’. When we learn to chill out and concentrate on being happy, the universe arranges ‘cooperative components’ like chance meetings, helpful people, synchronicities, and the likes that will help bring us the happier versions of the things we’ve put into our vortexes. This is an extremely simplified version of the ideas I’m still trying to fully understand after 6 years of study. And when I read the sentences out of context or someone asks me to explain it, it sounds so crazy and unbelievable. But I have so much evidence that it’s worth learning, like my brand new car.

If you’re brand new to the idea of creating your own reality and want to get started learning it, this probably isn’t the book you should start with. But then again, it might be the best. And no matter what anyone else tells you, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to learn how to make your life better.

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The Art of Selfishness by David Seabury

I love me some self help books.  Anything to give me the tiniest hint of how to be a happier person, I will eat up.  My boyfriend thinks all self help books are a marketing ploy for lonely, low self-esteemed housewives.  That it’s just the same message over and over, and  when boiled down to its basic message, it’s just “Are you sad? Don’t Be!”

I try to explain to him that lumping all self help books into one generalized category is like saying, “I don’t like science” or “I don’t like colors.”  In science you have chemistry, physics, biology, zoology, anatomy, psychology, and most words that end in -ology; in self help, you have the categories of relationships, how to relate to your children, how to relax, how to meditate, how to fix your marriage, how to get married in the first place, how to go through a divorce, how to be happy in general, how to be more organized, and many more.  I don’t really care about the relationship section but mainly focus on the happy in general section.

I had heard about David Seabury’s book from several different sources before actually deciding to read it myself.  I went to the book store, but it’s not in print anymore.  I went to four libraries that didn’t have it either.  Eventually the interlibrary loan got me a copy.  A very old copy.  Most people think new agey, law of attraction, manifestering, and happiness books are all from 1980 forward, but apparently like Ronda Burns found out when writing the Secret, the secret is actually a really old concept.

David Seabury originally wrote the Art of Selfishness in 1933.  The copy I got was another edition his wife put out in the 1960’s, in which she attempted to update some of the concepts.  I was fascinated to no end at the differences in language and tried to figure out what this book was saying, but in the end I didn’t really get anything useful out of it except a few chuckles.

Seabury’s main concept is that most people in 1930’s society hide behind a mask of religious and social constructs that prevent them from being the best version of themselves.  An example is the wife who has to always have dinner ready when her husband gets home and make the kids behave instead of taking care of herself first.  (Authors have been booed on Oprah for saying the same thing today.)  Or the husband who goes to work all day and comes home to be nagged by his wife and relatives.  Or doing something you don’t feel right doing because “they’re family.”  Seabury’s advice focuses around trying to get the reader to see that being selfish at the right time, no matter how uncomfortable to those around you, benefits everyone.

He uses many anecdotes that demonstrate how being selfish helped people (he was a psychologist).  One such example was a husband who kept his family living in the stone ages.  He expected his wife to do everything while he went to work, he yelled and chased boys away from the house that his daughters would bring home, and he wouldn’t let his sons get driver’s licenses.  And when he got home, he yelled because the temperature of his food wasn’t right or someone left a light on in the other room.  The wife went to Seabury for advice and he told her to treat the husband like it was the stone ages, and everyone in the house had to play along, no exceptions.  While the husband was away at work, the wife and kids turned off the electricity, gas, and heat, threw away all the food,  and got dressed like peasants.  When the dad got home, they let him have it.  He was basically stunned into submission and gave the family no further problems.

Another story was of a husband who wanted to move to the west coast and follow his dreams.  But his wife was bedridden to the point his mother-in-law had to move in with them to take care of her.  There was nothing physically wrong with her; her sickness just started  when her father died.  Anytime the husband mentioned moving west, she would go into fits of hysteria and he would feel so guilty.  Seabury told the husband to take acting lessons, especially learning how to be hysterical, and then go see his doctor and come up with an incurable illness of his own.  The doctor was in on Seabury’s plan with the husband.  Slowly the husband started to act sicker and sicker, eventually going to the doctor and telling his wife it was quite serious.  She started in with the hysterics, but the husband matched her.  The husband then told his wife that the doctor said the only cure was a warmer, dryer climate out west.  What could the wife do but go along.  They moved out west, without the mother-in-law, and the wife became a whole new person, wanting to travel all over the world.

Most of Seabury’s anecdotes left me stunned at his advice and the lengths his patients went to attain what was “best” for everyone.  Most of the means seemed shady, sneaky, and underhanded.  But every case seemed to have justified ends.

There were many bullet point lists that sprung up on the pages and didn’t necessarily have headings as to what the lists’ topics were.  One of the funniest lists involved how to put others at ease, with one of the points being to not have impassive faces like Asians since their faces rarely show expressions.  When things weren’t borderline racist, they were classic passive aggressive.  Seabury lightly dances around such modern terms like alcoholism for example.  He doesn’t say “raging alcoholic” or “abusive relationship”, instead he says someone is weary from “the drink” or giving someone “what for”.  So many times I found myself laughing out loud from the terminology.

There are many more current self help books that cover the same topics and are more understandable.  Some of Seabury’s lists on the right kinds of being selfish and the wrong kinds were interesting, but for the effort needed to get a copy of this book, you can get the same info elsewhere.

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The Law of Attraction by Esther & Jerry Hicks

I read this book by listening to the book on CD while I read along. I love the sensation of someone reading to me as I follow along, so this was a good read/listen.

As I was listening to most of this, I kept thinking to myself, “This sounds really familiar. I’ve heard this before.” At the beginning of the book, the author mentions how this book is based on a series of recordings from the beginning of their career. I’ve been a big fan of their work since I first learned about them in 2003ish. I was sure I’d heard bits and pieces of the recordings before, but I didn’t recognize this book as the compilation of those recordings until I would hear a story I’d heard maybe four or five years ago. 

None of the information was new to me, but since I had never read/listen to it all in one sitting, I never fully grasped what it was saying. It suddenly made much more sense than before when reading while listening to it all at once. This does not mean that I have mastered any of what was presented, because it is a subject that is best studied continually to maintain the understanding of it. It’s not like math where once you learn how to add numbers, you’ll always be able to add. With this type of information presented in the book, you can read it over and over and you will get a deeper and deeper understanding each time you read it. But if you read a book like this just once and never revisit the topic, you may gain insight for a few days, but then regular life will set back in. 

I love this book and will continue to read it over and over while gaining new info each time. Here are some nuggets of wisdom that stuck out to me on this read through, heavy, heavy plagiarism:

– Try to Meditate everyday. For 15 minutes each day, sit in a quiet room, wear comfortable clothing, and focus on your breathing. And as your mind wanders, and it will, just release the thought and focus back on your breathing. 

– If you want something in your life to change quicker, you simply need to give it more attention – the LOA (law of attraction) takes care of the rest and brings to you the essence of the subject of your thought.

– It is best when you give thought to what you want, so much thought, and such clear thought, that you summon positive emotions within you. The thought that are thought in combination with the felling of strong emotions are the most powerful. 

-In order to effect true positive change in your experience, you must disregard how things are – as well as how others are seeing you – and give more of your attention to the way you prefer things to be. 

– For 15 to 20 minutes max each day, it is a good idea to go into a “Creative Workshop” ~ creative visualization. It’s important you feel happy first, any uplifted or lighthearted feeling will do. Your work in the workshop is to bring data you’ve collected throughout the day together in a sort of picture of yourself, one that reflects what you want to have, be, do. Then you visualize having the things you want to have. The goal is to get clearer and clearer about what would make you happy in life. Specific enough to cause positive emotion but not too specific that you cause negative emotions within you.   

– Whenever you feel negative emotions, it is helpful to stop and acknowledge what you were thinking about. Negative emotion only exists when you are miscreating. When you recognize that you are feeling negative emotion, no matter how it got there, no matter what the situation is, stop doing whatever it is that you are doing and focus your thoughts on something that feels better. 

– If someone is in your life, you have attracted them. And while it is sometimes difficult to believe, you also attract everything about your experience with them – for nothing can come into your experience without your personal attraction of it. 

– You can be of great assistance to others as you see what they want to be, and as you uplift then to what they want to have through your words and through your attention to that. 

– If you don’t know where to being to figure out what you want in life, tell yourself everyday, several times a day “I want to know what I want.” Begin somewhere, and let the LOA deliver to you examples and choices, and then the more you think about those choices, the more passionate you will be. 

– When you are taking action in your now, and it is not action based in joy, it is a promise that it will not lead to a happy ending. It cannot, because that would defy the LOA. 

– A good exercise is to take three pieces of paper, and at the top of each one write the thing that you want. On the first page, beneath the subject, write: “These are the reasons that I want this …” Write whatever comes to mind, whatever flows forth naturally. Do not try to force it. When nothing else comes to mind, your done with that page. Now, turn the page over and write at the top of the second side: “These are the reasons I believe I will have this …” 

– You allow what you want into your life by expecting it, by believing it, and by letting it be. All that is necessary is that you want something, and continue to expect it until you have it, and it will be yours. 

-Giving your attention to what is important to you, while you will allow others to be that which they want to be, is very important. To give your attention to yourself, while you allow them to give their own attention to themselves, is a very important process in getting the life you want.

– Make a decision that no matter what you are doing in a day, no matter who you are interacting with, no matter where you are, that your dominant intent will be to look for those things that you want to see. If every morning for the next 30 days, you begin your day by saying: “I intend to see; I want to see; I expect to see, no matter who I am working with, no matter who I am talking with, no matter where I am, no matter what I am doing … I intend to see that which I want to see,” you will shift your focus to the positive, and the LOA will replace the things that displease you with things you do want. 

– It is a good practice to do “Segment Intending” as you move throughout your day. It is the process of deliberately identifying what you specifically want for each moment in time. When you consider many subjects at the same time, you generally do not move forward strongly toward any of them, for your focus and your power is diffused, whereas if you are focusing upon what is most important in any point in time, you move forward more powerfully toward that. 

– Examples of segments are when you wake up in the morning, when you get out of bed, when you make breakfast, when you get in your car to go to work, when the phone rings, etc. 

– The value of Segment Intending is that you pause many times during the day to say, this is what I want from this segment of my life. I want it and I expect it. An example is when you are going to sleep at night, lying there with your head on the pillow, you would set forth the intention: It is my intention for my body to completely relax. I intent to wake up rested, refreshed, and eager to begin my day.  Another example is while making breakfast set forth: I will select and prepare nutritious food, eat it in joy, and allowing my wonderful body to digest and process it perfectly. 

– In the physical world, you cannot have a physical experience until you have created it first in thought. And so, the Creative Workshop is the place where you give you deliberate thought to, and where you begin the attraction of, the thing or things that you want. 

– The majority of your negative emotion could be eliminated if, in those times what you are alone, you would focus upon what you now want to think about. When you feel negativity coming on, treat it with segment intending and say: This will be brief, and I will not lose my train of thought. I will not lose the momentum that I have set forth. I will deal with this quickly and efficiently, and I will get on with what I was doing. 

– If you want prosperity and you believe that you deserve it, and you expect it to come to you just because you want it to, there is no contradiction in your thinking – and the prosperity will flow. …Pay attention to how you are feeling as you are offering your thoughts so you can sort out the contradictory thoughts, and as you eliminate the contradictions regarding anything that you desire, it must come to you. 

– People torture themselves unnecessarily, by not taking the time to clean up their thoughts and focus them. Simply give thought to what is preferred, consistently throughout the day, and the LOA will take care of everything else. 

– You will be rooted like a tree in your life as long as you are seeing only what-is, and you will not grow beyond it. You must be allowed to see what you want to see if you will ever attract what you want to see. Attention to what-is only creates more of what-is.

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Sara, Book 1 by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks

This is an amazing first book in a series of children’s books by the authors.  Sara is the main character, and in this book, she befriends a talking owl who teaches her how to change bad days into good ones. Sara learns how to handle an annoying little brother, bullies at school, nagging teachers, demanding parents, and the usual assortment of everyday people.  This book takes the happy, shiny, abstract concepts of the Law of Attraction and weaves them into a concrete, fictional story that illustrates how to use the concepts on an everyday level to improve one’s life.  

Most books that tackle this topic come across as overly simplistic with the message “you just need to be happy, ok, now be happy!” without ever mentioning how, or their message is wrapped up in repetitive cannon fodder for housewives to get through the afternoon.  Sara Book 1 is more of a guidebook using specific examples that can easily be translated onto one’s own life.  I don’t even have children yet, but when I do, I will be reading this and its two sequels over and over to them.

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